Did anyone's kids NOT get into a frat or sorority (2024)

Anonymous wrote:Greek life sounds like a nightmare for 18 year olds. It's baffling that it still persists.

It’s like going back in time for some of these Southern sororities. Sexism like it’s 1950. Females cannot have men in their bedrooms but fraternities can. Females have to be dressed appropriately with hair and makeup and they are very picky about what makeup you can and can’t use. Pink nail polish . Sororities cannot have parties in their house with alcohol without joining up with a fraternity.

I can’t imagine following silly rules and regulations after finally getting some freedom. The fraternities and sororities segregate the school into mini campuses unrelated to each other.

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Anonymous wrote:I will never stop being amazed that there are girls and their parents out there who are so disappointed, hurt, shocked, etc., when they are “excluded” from an organization that is deliberately and literally exclusive.

Ohhhh nooo, you wanted to be part of the cool girls who gatekeep and don’t let everyone in? And they didn’t let you be a part of them? And now you don’t have the power to gatekeep and exclude, and being excluded makes you sad? Got it.

So simple minded. There are more than a dozen houses with different personalities and values. They are not all “exclusive” like your Hollywood vision.

The point of college is to learn to get along with people with different personalities and viewpoints.

The point of college is an education. Education should ultimately help with that. Greek life is where kids who just turned 18 are looking for friends. News flash, friends usually have a lot in common.

Greek life only puts people together that look and sound alike. College is meant to expand the students knowledge and meet people from different backgrounds, different countries or parts of the country. The student shouldn’t need someone to handpick his friends.

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Anonymous wrote:Greek life sounds like a nightmare for 18 year olds. It's baffling that it still persists.

It’s like going back in time for some of these Southern sororities. Sexism like it’s 1950. Females cannot have men in their bedrooms but fraternities can. Females have to be dressed appropriately with hair and makeup and they are very picky about what makeup you can and can’t use. Pink nail polish . Sororities cannot have parties in their house with alcohol without joining up with a fraternity.

I can’t imagine following silly rules and regulations after finally getting some freedom. The fraternities and sororities segregate the school into mini campuses unrelated to each other.

That is bizarre indeed. Where is this? Alabama?

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Anonymous wrote:Greek life sounds like a nightmare for 18 year olds. It's baffling that it still persists.

It’s like going back in time for some of these Southern sororities. Sexism like it’s 1950. Females cannot have men in their bedrooms but fraternities can. Females have to be dressed appropriately with hair and makeup and they are very picky about what makeup you can and can’t use. Pink nail polish . Sororities cannot have parties in their house with alcohol without joining up with a fraternity.

I can’t imagine following silly rules and regulations after finally getting some freedom. The fraternities and sororities segregate the school into mini campuses unrelated to each other.

That is bizarre indeed. Where is this? Alabama?

Greek life perpetuates everything that is bad in society. Racism, sexism, harassment, alcoholism, it’s terrible and awful people still think it is ok.

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Anonymous wrote:Greek life sounds like a nightmare for 18 year olds. It's baffling that it still persists.

It’s like going back in time for some of these Southern sororities. Sexism like it’s 1950. Females cannot have men in their bedrooms but fraternities can. Females have to be dressed appropriately with hair and makeup and they are very picky about what makeup you can and can’t use. Pink nail polish . Sororities cannot have parties in their house with alcohol without joining up with a fraternity.

I can’t imagine following silly rules and regulations after finally getting some freedom. The fraternities and sororities segregate the school into mini campuses unrelated to each other.

My daughter told me that at her school the sorority girls clean the fraternity houses. Big nope for me! Why would we teach young men that women are their cooking and cleaning servants? We worked so hard to get away from that stereotype!

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Anonymous wrote:Happened to a nephew at Big South University and likely because he was out of state and not hyper/local. Top fraternities are for in-staters only. My brother (his dad) was shocked as we attended same SLAC w/o Greek system.

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Ole Miss.

This absolutely happens at Ole Miss. Lived it.

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Anonymous wrote:Greek life sounds like a nightmare for 18 year olds. It's baffling that it still persists.

It’s like going back in time for some of these Southern sororities. Sexism like it’s 1950. Females cannot have men in their bedrooms but fraternities can. Females have to be dressed appropriately with hair and makeup and they are very picky about what makeup you can and can’t use. Pink nail polish . Sororities cannot have parties in their house with alcohol without joining up with a fraternity.

I can’t imagine following silly rules and regulations after finally getting some freedom. The fraternities and sororities segregate the school into mini campuses unrelated to each other.

My daughter told me that at her school the sorority girls clean the fraternity houses. Big nope for me! Why would we teach young men that women are their cooking and cleaning servants? We worked so hard to get away from that stereotype!

WTAF?

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Anonymous wrote:Greek life sounds like a nightmare for 18 year olds. It's baffling that it still persists.

It’s like going back in time for some of these Southern sororities. Sexism like it’s 1950. Females cannot have men in their bedrooms but fraternities can. Females have to be dressed appropriately with hair and makeup and they are very picky about what makeup you can and can’t use. Pink nail polish . Sororities cannot have parties in their house with alcohol without joining up with a fraternity.

I can’t imagine following silly rules and regulations after finally getting some freedom. The fraternities and sororities segregate the school into mini campuses unrelated to each other.

My daughter told me that at her school the sorority girls clean the fraternity houses. Big nope for me! Why would we teach young men that women are their cooking and cleaning servants? We worked so hard to get away from that stereotype!

I don’t believe this! The girls don’t even clean their own houses- there is help for that. This sounds like a rumor started by a GDI to make Greeks look bad.

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Anonymous wrote:Greek life sounds like a nightmare for 18 year olds. It's baffling that it still persists.

It’s like going back in time for some of these Southern sororities. Sexism like it’s 1950. Females cannot have men in their bedrooms but fraternities can. Females have to be dressed appropriately with hair and makeup and they are very picky about what makeup you can and can’t use. Pink nail polish . Sororities cannot have parties in their house with alcohol without joining up with a fraternity.

I can’t imagine following silly rules and regulations after finally getting some freedom. The fraternities and sororities segregate the school into mini campuses unrelated to each other.

My daughter told me that at her school the sorority girls clean the fraternity houses. Big nope for me! Why would we teach young men that women are their cooking and cleaning servants? We worked so hard to get away from that stereotype!

I don’t believe this! The girls don’t even clean their own houses- there is help for that. This sounds like a rumor started by a GDI to make Greeks look bad.

I agree there is no way that’s the case. Sororities are equal to fraternities, if that happened it was part of hazing - which doesn’t really happen with sororities.

PP is right though that you can’t have parties with alcohol in sororities and technically you’re not allowed to have men there but we did it all the time lol. Nowadays they have “satellite” houses which are unofficial so they can host parties but usually they are just pregame type parties for the sisters.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. Hasn't happened yet but worrying ahead of time because rush happens quickly and over summer. Seems a very stressful start to school. Didn't think it all through.

It happened to my DD. At first, it was awful -- she was bawling her eyes out. Then she made some friends in her dorm and everything got better. Girls can still go to parties at frats even if they don't belong to a sorority, so that's what she did and she had a blast. That said, she still talks about trying to join again. TO me, it's just another opportunity to be rejected. ((Sigh))

If she has friends who are in sororities now, she will have a good chance of getting in if she rushes again, unless she also has enemies.

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Anonymous wrote:Greek life sounds like a nightmare for 18 year olds. It's baffling that it still persists.

It’s like going back in time for some of these Southern sororities. Sexism like it’s 1950. Females cannot have men in their bedrooms but fraternities can. Females have to be dressed appropriately with hair and makeup and they are very picky about what makeup you can and can’t use. Pink nail polish . Sororities cannot have parties in their house with alcohol without joining up with a fraternity.

I can’t imagine following silly rules and regulations after finally getting some freedom. The fraternities and sororities segregate the school into mini campuses unrelated to each other.

Agree with both posts. In this day of inclusion, I am so surprised that these groups still exist.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. Hasn't happened yet but worrying ahead of time because rush happens quickly and over summer. Seems a very stressful start to school. Didn't think it all through.

It happened to my DD. At first, it was awful -- she was bawling her eyes out. Then she made some friends in her dorm and everything got better. Girls can still go to parties at frats even if they don't belong to a sorority, so that's what she did and she had a blast. That said, she still talks about trying to join again. TO me, it's just another opportunity to be rejected. ((Sigh))

If she has friends who are in sororities now, she will have a good chance of getting in if she rushes again, unless she also has enemies.

No, they don’t take many sophom*ores. It’s all about making money and they want four full years of dues. By junior year most girls are starting to grow out of it and by senior year lots of girls get pretty inactive. They make their money by feeding on that hope of friendship and inclusion in the youngest girls who just left home.

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Anonymous wrote:Who cares? Sororities and fraternities are not needed for a successful path through college and beyond.

Sorry you didn't get a bid, geed.

And there's OP's answer. Thread complete.

I'm OP and confused lol

LOL, pretty simple, you asked if it's possible to be shut out. The PP is insulting people for being shut out.

If everyone can get a bid, how is it an insult to say "sorry, you didn't get a bid"? Is the PP a grown-ass adult or a current student? Which would be worse? Did PP mean to say "sorry you didn't get the good bid?" Does that make things better, or doesn't it still imply pecking order is the be all end all.

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Anonymous wrote:Who cares? Sororities and fraternities are not needed for a successful path through college and beyond.

Sorry you didn't get a bid, geed.

And there's OP's answer. Thread complete.

I'm OP and confused lol

LOL, pretty simple, you asked if it's possible to be shut out. The PP is insulting people for being shut out.

If everyone can get a bid, how is it an insult to say "sorry, you didn't get a bid"? Is the PP a grown-ass adult or a current student? Which would be worse? Did PP mean to say "sorry you didn't get the good bid?" Does that make things better, or doesn't it still imply pecking order is the be all end all.

“Geed” poster is a long time troll. He joins every one of these threads with the same weird insult. He has always sounds like a 15 year old with fantasties about what Greek life will be like for him.